Hm, some things on
roleplaysecrets that bothered me today.
1. I don't like slash/gay/yaoi; I can't help thinking these people are prejudice in some way for this. Now, before everyone gets super defensive, I don't mean to offend. It's just...well, I'm a lesbian who likes to play lesbians, gays, and straight dudes and girls not only as relationships to play out, but also as
characters. And I mean, these people in
roleplaysecrets are also making it sound like if you play a part of a gay relationship or if you PLAY a character remotely attracted to the same sex, it is simply for fetishization. Though part of it is that it's hot, there's also the part that likes to explore relationships and character psychology through developing the relationship. It doesn't even have to be a gay relationship, but straight or lesbian. Does that make sense?
2. If they're not attracted to he/she/it in the source, it's not canon; This makes me especially mad. Sexuality is on a spectrum. The Kinsey Scale goes from 0 to 6 with 0 being completely straight and 6 being completely gay. Dr. Kinsey interview many men and women who fell from between 1 to 5.
Face it, everyone has had at least one moment of questioning in their lives. A guy might have thought Tom Brady was sexy for a moment. A lesbian might have feelings for this hot action cop actor (hello, me). Basically,
sexuality is fluid. As much as we try to deny and stay firm in our "I'M COMPLETELY STRAIGHT" and "I'M COMPLETELY GAY" beliefs, there are at least those split seconds of doubt. I know this is very controversial and I've gotten some shit for it, but to me, it makes the most sense.
Now, I'm
not saying everyone is bisexual. No, I'm a woman attracted to women.. I
am saying is that I'm not ruling out men. I don't actively
look for them and I turn them down more often than the regular girl. It's that some day, I
might fall in love with a man and that won't sound strange to me since he was just an
exception to my otherwise lesbian self. For example, I'll copy pasta from a Shawn post I made a few weeks ago:
There's this story I heard while trolling Brokeback Mountain message boards when the movie first came out. Two women were friends for a few years. They had husbands and children and pretty normal lives. One night, they were saying goodbye to each other and kissed each other on the cheek. This one kiss escalated into making out and tearing off each others clothes. The aftermath was a mess, but last I heard, they separated from their husbands and are living together.I have also heard stories from my lesbians friends of their ex-girlfriends falling in love with men, etc. and so forth!
There's been some hesitance with Shawn and Lassiter's failmance at
capeandcowl. Toby and I are quite perplexed by some of the negative feedback as Toby also shares my opinion that sexuality is rather fluid. We're realistic. Shawn and Lassiter ain't gonna fall in love in two months and have babies and go off on their merry way. Shit happens and we are excited to play it all out, because the dynamic between the two of them is pretty hilarious and incredible in canon.
Now, I think the point is to remain
IC regardless of sexual orientation. If Sora develops as a person and
gradually falls for Riku for a good reason, go for it. Same for Sora falling for say, idfk, Yuffie. All relationships need development and a good reason. It's not just OK, because the creators said so (i.e. Shawn/Juliet where I find contradictions everywhere), fandom says so, or you want to get your jollies off (private roleplay like I used to do).